Strategies for Communicating in Restaurants


Dining plays in an important role in many cultures.  I think we can all agree that we do not eat simply to nourish our bodies.  It is the human connection that seems to be the most important part of dining.  We propose marriage, celebrate birthdays and anniversaries, close business deals, and simply connect with friends and family while dining.

Unfortunately, many people with hearing loss cannot enjoy the social benefits of dining due to their reduced ability to communicate in this noisy environment.  Indeed, many simply accept that they will only be there to consume the food and not much else.  Others simply choose to eliminate this social activity from their lives altogether.  This is very sad.

There are solutions, however.  These will depend partly on your degree of hearing loss, and partly on how noisy the restaurant is.  In the chart below I list the possible solutions for the various environments for different hearing loss levels.  Note that I am assuming that you have a hearing aid.  The last line is suggestions for CI users.

Degree of Hearing Loss Cafe(SNR @ 5 – 0) Restaurant (SNR @ 0 to -5) Bar (SNR @-10) 
Mild Hearing Aid with Directional Microphones Hearing Aid with Directional Microphones FM system in Zoom
Moderate Hearing Aid with Directional Microphones Either FM system in Zoom or hearing aid directional mic FM system in Zoom.
Moderate-Severe Either FM system in Zoom or hearing aid directional mic FM System in Zoom FM system in SuperZoom
Severe FM system in Zoom FM system in Zoom or SuperZoom FM system in SuperZoom
Profound FM system in Zoom FM System in SuperZoom FM system in SuperZoom
Cochlear Implant Directional mic on CI or FM system in Zoom Directional mic on CI or FM system in Zoom FM system in SuperZoom

So what are these microphone positions I am referring to?  Well, on the SmartLink and ZoomLink there are three different microphones.  The Omni mic is at the bottom and it picks up sound in all directions.  I never use this position in a noisy restaurant.  The middle microphone is called the Zoom position.  This picks up sound from the front, but not from behind.  The top microphone is referred to as the SuperZoom position.  This is a beam forming microphone that only picks up sound directly in front, but not from the sides or behind.

The SuperZoom and the Zoom microphones are the most effective in noisy environments like a restaurant

The trick to getting the most out of your directional microphone or FM system is getting the correct seat. You want to have the noise that you don’t want to hear BEHIND you.  A lot of people make the mistake of getting a table in the corner and having the person with hearing loss sit in the corner facing the entire restaurant.  This is the WRONG seat.  You want the background noise in your back.  This way your directional microphones, either on the hearing aid or the FM system, cancel out this noise and only pick up the person in front.

So here are the steps I take when going our for dinner.

  1. Try to find restaurants that are already quieter.  Choose restaurants that don’t blast music during dinner.
  2. Ask for a table in a quiet section of the restaurant if possible.
  3. Seat yourself with your back towards the background noise.  The waiter will try to seat you in the corner with your back to the wall.  He means well, but ignore him and seat yourself correctly.
  4. If you are a small group, seat the other people in front of you.  Ideally you should see the people you wish to hear in front of you and that’s it.  This way your microphones are only picking up those you wish to hear.  I then place my FM system on the table about half a meter away from the people I want to hear.
  5. If you are a larger dinner party, this presents a challenge.  You will still seat yourself as I described.  But your microphones will not always be pointing at the person who is talking.  You need to move your microphone towards the person you wish to converse with.

A couple more points to consider.

  1. If I am having dinner with just one other person, I may get his person to wear the transmitter.  But I do so after the waiter finishes blabbing about all the specials and takes my order.  (Some of these waiters seem to love the sound of their own voice because they talk way too much.  Hint to waiters: Less talk and better service = bigger tip from me).
  2. The FM microphones work best when they are as close to the talker as possible.  So place the transmitter on the table no more than half a meter away.
  3. When the waiter brings the food, grab your microphone off the table, then reposition it.
  4. When having Sushi, keep the microphone away from your Soya Sauce.  I have killed a few transmitters from spills.
  5. In large dinner parties, you will still miss out on some conversation because the microphone is only pointing at one or two people at a time.  Yes, this is still a limitation.  But you can either sit at home and sulk, or you can still be partially engaged.
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